Thursday, March 22, 2007


“I know you've seen her
She's a sad tomato
She's three miles of bad road
Walking down the street
Will I never meet her?” - Crush With Eyeliner, R.E.M.

Since Cassandra Says has declared it Female Desire Week, and others have followed suit, I thought I’d throw my two cents into the ring. Female Desire Week reminds us all that women aren’t just tools of the patriarchy, that we too can be initiators of “the gaze”.

I cannot speak for all women, but at least I know I’m not dead inside. I’d like to actually, you know, enjoy my sexual activities, whether it is with a man or woman.

And, oh, on the whole man or woman topic. As most of my readers know, I’m bisexual. If you’ve been reading my blog for some time you’ve probably noticed that I have a tendency to get involved with more men (whether sexually, emotionally, relationships.. whatever) then women. And when friends call they say, “Meet any cute guys lately?” or “any special guy in your life?” Inevitably, I have some random guy-story to relay to them. Blah Blah Blah.

Not that I don’t like or don’t fantasize about certain men, because I do. BUT, it gets old. If I had my way, I’d alternate between the two genders. This week men, next week women, and so forth. In a perfect world, I could Take a Sample from Every Platter when ever I wanted, AND not feel guilty about it.

But why do I feel like Mom just slapped my hand as I reached into the cookie jar?

For some reason, Desire, especially has been a central issue for me. Certainly, I’ve been known to frolic in the garden while tasting everything in sight. Most partners would like to keep my frolicking to a minimum or eliminate it altogether. I am not comfortable with this for several reasons. But, mostly because It’s So Freaking Boring! I love the chase, the moment where nothing is certain and adrenaline is high. I realize this resembles the classic feelings of a girl with a middle school crush, but hell, don’t we all like our love dressed up and all idealistic? Cause I know when reality creeps in, that’s the kiss of death for me. It ruins the expectation of a perfect union, and well, I’m just not that interested in settling. Delusional? Maybe. Hopeful? Always.

And so, I digress.

Anyway, here are some other tantalizing gaze-inspirers from a previous post for your viewing pleasure. And I do mean pleasure.

This, however, is the Music Edition. And since there are so many sizzling desirous musicians , I had a lot of material to work with.

I’ve grouped them into categories for organizational purposes, of course.


Hot Girls with Guitars (and an occasional Piano):

Tristan Prettyman

Regina Spektor

Neko Case

Hot women who should beat me with a whip:

Rose McGowen (I realize she is not a musician, but I couldn’t resist)

Alison Goldfrapp

A Threesome I wouldn’t mind participating in:

The White Stripes

Group Gropes I would definitely attend:

The Yeah Yeah Yeahs

PJ Harvey, Bjork, Tori

And shocking as it is, one singular man:

Ray Lamontagne

Standing ovation, close curtain.


Cassandra Says said...

Hey, you did participate...I was hoping you would. I was also hoping someone would focus on the women, since I seem to be going through a guy-fixated moment.
Can I borrow Rose McGowan for a while? Those lips...

Liam said...

Speaking of beautiful women in music, April Laragy of the Atomic Swindlers deserves your attention. You haven't heard of them, but they are well worth the time - a link to their site is below:

sallysunshine_26 said...

To Cassandra: I know what you mean about guy-fixated moments. It happens to me too, but not by choice. It's hard to find women I'm attracted to, let alone could have a conversation with here. It's kind of a bummer. We have a major shortage of quality bi women in good ol' South Dakota.

Yes, and of course you can borrow Rose. By all means...~S.S.

sallysunshine_26 said...

To L:

Thanks bro, much appreciated. You know your endless wisdom and resourcefulness never ceases to amaze me. ~SS

Cassandra Says said...

Oddly enough I've met very few women I'm interested in here. There were far more in London. I'm not at all sure why.
I finally posted some female objects of desire of my own. The most interesting thing about this little experiment to me has been how much people's tastes differ - mine are certainly not US standard.

PS I promise to give Rose back later.