Tuesday, August 07, 2007

Role Play: Mother Mud and Father Law

“Girls can wear jeans
And cut their hair short
Wear shirts and boots
'Cause it's okay to be a boy
But for a boy to look like a girl is degrading
'Cause you think that being a girl is degrading
But secretly you'd love to know what it's like
What it feels like for a girl” ~ Excerpt from The Cement Garden, and also as heard on Madonna’s cd, “Music”

Men who want to be initiated/assimilated into the female experience have always fascinated me. Typically, it is these types that find me with startling frequency.

Keep in mind, I’m not talking solely about drag queens or transsexuals, folks. I’m including straight, gay, bi, monogamous, and poly men alike. Bear with me as I expound....

Prescribed gender roles have been around since the beginning of time, and were generally used to organize society in order encourage efficient resource allocation. Men do this, women do that, and everyone lives happily ever after. So it would seem.

Fast forward a few hundred years and now women can own property, vote, manifest our own respective financial destinies, and reap the benefits of reproductive freedom. On a superficial level, at the very least, women have entered and been assimilated into the male experience. And yes, for some women, the door is open to move toward an even deeper level of masculinity. Women who stand at this threshold may face societal pressure to step back, but still, the door is there.

Men, on the other hand, from what I’ve witnessed, find it far more difficult to submerge themselves directly in feminine. Not only has society, with its rigid structural permanence, enclosed men in air tight gender roles, but there are internal barriers in place as well. The basic idea of a “woman’s role” has clearly shaken to the core. But, what about men?

Here’s something: Men crave, I mean, CRAVE, experiences/encounters that allow them to surrender their masculinity. I’m not sure how I figured this out because it was not within the intellectual realm. My first experience with this happened when a lover and I were fucking, me on top, him looking adoringly up at me…and he gave himself over. Psychically, I felt him let go of his “maleness” while I fucked HIM. Even his facial expressions took on a very feminine quality, while I observed the transformation right before my very eyes. He climaxed almost immediately. And that, dear readers, is how I got involved with energy experiments. I’ll take back my femininity if you take back your masculinity.

In other words, I’ll show you mine if you show me yours. hell. yeah.

Now, how does this work with two women? oooooo….. I knew you’d ask, more to cum, I mean come….


Anonymous said...

:) Well, the first person to fuck me in the ass was my ex-wife. I have a running joke that if she ever calls me a faggot again, I'm going to tell her it's her fault. ;)

Thing is, with her, when I cross dressed and we had sex, she was the aggressor (top). I wondered at the time if she had trans issues herself (fucking me would get her off within a few minutes).

I think it's all about getting something you never thought you could, because you were brought up in a society that tells you what you can do based on your gender.


(I'm actually posting this anonymously because I don't want anyone searching for posts by me from my blogger profile.)

SallySunshine said...

"I wondered at the time if she had trans issues herself"


I'm sure that I do- I can't count the number of times I've wished I was man. It's incredibly delicious to get outside of gender.

Anonymous said...

"I'm sure that I do- I can't count the number of times I've wished I was man. It's incredibly delicious to get outside of gender."

I don't think that's a gender identity issue... it's a dominance issue. You don't have to take testosterone to strap one on and fuck a man. ;) Hell, my ex just used fingers, and that was enough to get her off. I dig you because I think you seem to get that sex isn't about "THIS IS WHAT A MAN DOES, THIS IS WHAT A WOMAN DOES", it's about what gets both people off.


Cassandra Says said...

Potential point of interest...I agree that most men crave opportunities to let the manly walls down, but what interests me is how many of them only feel able to do so in the presence of a trusted woman. It seems as if they have a very hard time doing so with each other.
I'm not just talking about sex here, thought sex is an efficient way to get to that point. I also mean in a more general sense.
All my life I've run into men who seem to feel able to let their feminine side out to play with me in a way that they very clearly don't in general, and not at all with their male friends, and I can't help but wondering what that's about. Do some of us (female) give off some sort of vibe that it's OK for men to let their guard down around us? Are we subconsciously trolling for men who're looking for that?
Because I've had this conversation with female friends before and had them look at me blankly, in a way that clearly indicated that such things happen to them rarely if at all, but me? All the time.

Cassandra Says said...

BTW, do you mind if I port some of this over to my own blogs (my musings anyway) and possibly quote part of your post?

SallySunshine said...

To Cassandra:

I would consider it an honor my dear, port away. ;)

Anonymous said...

Port away...
hmmm, some pervert could take that the wron...right way.


Cassandra Says said...

Sally - Thanks. I have another post on gender coming right up, maybe I can move on to this particular theme next since it's sort of a logical segue.

Marti - You, my dear, have a dirty mind. I always like that in a person.

SallySunshine said...

Yes, agreed. Dirty minds are always welcome.